how to say no when you feel pressured
Now lean in and let me whisper something Im trying desperately to teach myself. I cant wait for the Bible Study! I cant wait to begin this study and spend extra time with God. Most of them, like whic" So excited to start this study! Ive signed up to join the online Bible Study. I always feel like a a Christian woman I need to help where needed. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); Announcements, gatherings, ways we can learn together and more! Say no when you want to say no but feel pressured to say yes. My brain cued all the right signals for my mouth to say no. Thanks for taking the time to succinctly and with poise come up no replies to peole. So excited to get away this weekend for the retreat! This strategy also allows you to think about whether you want to say "yes" to another commitment. Learning to say yes to God and yes to myself is liberating. Cant wait! We even have it on our schedule to start next spring in our Real Life Devotional Group. Ive been inviting friends like crazy and hopefully even a few of the Pastors wives will join me in this!! For more encouragement to know when to say yes and how to say no, check out my new book, The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands. While I dont have time for a lunch appointment, Id love to connect for a few minutes over the phone. You dont need to justify your reasoning. Actually, Ive vowed to go to the gym consistently so I hit my New Years ResolutionI hope you can understand., You decline someones invitation to go out for coffee because you already have plans on the day they requested, You tell someone you cant go to a party because you have no one to watch the kids, You apologize for not being able to help someone with a project because youre working toward a major deadline. When an asker converses with a guesser, there might be more room for miscommunication. Signed up! I have signed up for the Bible Study, and while I already purchased a copy of your book at Target when it came out, Id love to have a copy so I can invite a friend to join the study with me! Already signed up and have my book, but I would love to give it to a friend that is running a VERY tight budget. The offers that appear in this table are from partnerships from which Verywell Mind receives compensation. I have enjoyed listening to your insights on KLUV this week while driving my kids to school. I have signed up for study and got my book Im super excited. Something told me to go to your site this morning and now I know it was God. Thanks! I cant wait to get this book! Your book is on my wish listhoping I win one though, moneys tight right now. Finally, yesterday, my dear husband convinced me yesterday that my own copy of The Best Yes was a purchase we could make, and I bought it! Would love a book to share with a friend! I remember hearing that No. is a complete sentence. Hi, my name is Sarah and I am a perpetual people pleaser. So challenge yourself to put yourself first. This will be my first online study and I am so looking forward to applying the Word to my life. I would love to win a copy of the book to give to a friend who is struggling in the area of BUSY-ness and knowing how to say her best yes! I am such a people person! THANK YOU!!!!!!!! Thanks! Click here to purchase your copy. I am so excited for this bible study! Notice a pattern? Super excited! I were to say, While my heart wants to say yes, yes, yes, the reality of my time makes this a no. anybody that knows me would know that theyjust got brushed off. Im signed up, what do I do next? Thank you Lysa for all the effort to put on the God bless you! ", "I'm not qualified to help with that project. Signed up for The Best Yes OBS a while ago. I would love a copy of the book . So excited!! No is a word I tend to be scared of. do things to temporarily lower their own evolutionary fitness while improving someone elses, with the expectation that the favor will be returned at some point. I just signed up for your online Bible study. It hits home with me! If you're focusing on failing or worrying about making the wrong decision, you're putting unnecessary pressure on yourself. Doesnt mean I wont purchase a copy in the near future because I am a shameless Lysa T fan!! Im so hungry to learn about the Lord and making my Best YES decisions so I can better serve Him!!! I signed up for the The Best Yes Bible study. She said, I have signed up as well,but afraid I will not be able to purchase the book. I signed up!!!!! So saying no to someone is, in almost any context, a pretty clear way of indicating that you dont want to cooperate. Misty. I supposed that it is, but only if you want to be rude (which will only make you feel guilty). Im excited that God impressed upon you to write this book and now to lead this study. Ive been this way for so long and Im really tired from the guilt. There are a number of reasons why knowing how to say no is so important. Then many turn and oppose or challenge the call God has put on my life to put family first. As a woman, wife and mother I often feel the most opposition, lack of support and encouragement from other women; both believing an non-believing. I signed up! People described the deep guilt they experience when they say no. I have signed up for the study and would love to win a copy of the book to replace the copy I gave away to someone who wanted to do the study but couldnt afford the book. Thank you for these helpful sentences on how to say .. no. Im signed up and super pumped. This issue is something I desperately need in this season of life and am so looking forward to diving into! However want to remark on few Fast-forward a few sessions and she was saying no more often (and even felt good about it). Finding ways to set boundaries and stick to your resolve can help. I have signed up for the study and have the book, but what a gift it would be to give to someone else! This study hits home! Im reading the Princess Book and it is changing my life! Saying no will hurt and upset others and make them feel rejected. Offering an excuse may seem like the polite way to decline a request, but it sets you up for an awkward situation. Im not sure I even know how to form the word No. I feel terrible when I say No and am constantly trying to figure out how to prioritize. Yes! i excited to do a bible in enriched me in my walk with god and learn from follow brother and sister in Christ is a joy and privilege i sighn up for the study my god richly bless you . Sure, theres always going to be the odd person whos overly sensitive and takes things the wrong way, but most well-adjusted people are used to rejection. YaY! I signed up last week! If you have too much on your plate, reevaluate it and let something go. Cant wait to start this study I despreately need the help big time. I have a heavenly husband and Father and His love is unconditional. Elizabeth Scott, PhD is an author, workshop leader, educator, and award-winning blogger on stress management, positive psychology, relationships, and emotional wellbeing. I cant wait for the OBS. Make your default response to any request Let me get back to you.. I am eager to learn and experience everything that is offered. It doesnt have to be hurtful. I long to honor God with my time. ", "That sounds really fun, but I won't be able to make it. While I would love to connect about your new project, Ive discovered this is one of those activities I must give up while trying to ____________________ (write my book, start my business, stick to my project, etc.) Good luck on getting it done., Im sorry, but I told myself I really have to go to the gym tonight. Make eye contact, then say No forcefully, with authority. I would love to win this book. Signed up for study but dont have book yet, would love a book. Im signed up and I cant wait to start! I am going to create my own sheet for best advice and utilize that as a response so at least I am being helpful and protective of my time. Medical Reviewers confirm the content is thorough and accurate, reflecting the latest evidence-based research. . Signed up and SO excited to begin this study and journey with Proverbs 31 OBS on Monday!!! Ill get back to you., I need to check whether I have time for that. I am signed up and looking forward to this study. be informed. Learning how to gracefully be more purposeful with my time, resources and the boundaries that contain them is such an intentional effort for me, when naturally helping others is what makes my heart go pitter pat. Jordan played three seasons with the Bulls before Pippen was drafted to Chicago. Thank you. Saying no at work is necessary at times, but it can also come with added pressures. I signed up! By doing this study online, I am able to say yes to more time in the Word and less time in my car. be pushy. I have never seen a Bible study that seemed more designed for my life! Im guessing you have similar thoughts. If saying yes will take away from the time and energy you need for things that are more important to you, then saying no to the request is probably the best option. Lysa, Im so happy I found you two years ago. Heres the No. Super excited . Because relationships are about give-and-take, saying no to your partner might mean making compromises. Just signed up .found this through My Heart Stil Sings blog. Prayer connects our overwhelming anxiety to Gods overcoming power. Consider the reasons why you need to say no to certain projects/tasks. Whether you say "yes" instead of no out of guilt, inner conflict, or a misguided notion that you can "do it all," learning to say no to more requests can be one of the biggest favors you can do yourself and for those you love. Signed up for the online study! It has been a long suffering love kind of passion that has left me feeling like I might just unravel at the seams at times, and pausing to invite God into the journey has been just as intentional as learning how to better understand what it means to serve where Im called as opposed to the desire to serve wherever Im pulled. With that in mind it gives me the focus to graciously say no even to close friends, without offering excuses that they try to find their way around. For example, instead of a curt, No, I cant do that, you could say, Im really sorry, but I just dont have the bandwidth to take this on. I have already signed up for Bible Study book and workbook are on order due to arrive tomorrow (17th of Sept) Being a 24/7 caregiver to mother-in-law at age of 95, I can only do online studies Anxiously waiting for study to begin. The more you say no in casual, low-pressure situations, the easier it will be to respond in more serious ones. Does this project or request align with my values? I have signed up for this online study.I desperately need this as i do not know how to say no.Yes is the right thing to say but then my plate is so full i dont have time to relax because am always too tired , worn out and still there is more to do. be obliged. In other words, we literally got to where we are as the most intelligent species on the planet by scratching each others back and getting ours scratched in return. Agreeing to something is your choice, and while people may manipulate, cajole, and beg, you can still say no. This will open your mind to the reality that saying no is common and accepted by most people. . You ROCK!!! My best friend signed up for the study at the same time as me. When you say no, youll find that learning to do so will directly translate to an easier time in all other areas of your life especially if youre an awkward people pleaser like I was. Excited to encourage and love on other woman during this study! So that you can achieve more of what YOU want (while doing less) and free up time for things such as family, friends, hobbies and (yes!) I signed up! Children with anxious attachment styles (i.e., ambivalent and avoidant, which generally form as a result of neglectful, careless, or inconsistent parenting) tend to grow up struggling to form relationships with others. Im sure this study will give me the fortitude to say no when I really need to. Thank you. Times when you said no and someone got angry stick in your memory They fear negative reactions and dont want to hurt anyones feelings. All that does is bring on more guilt (and opens the door to more pressure being applied, because theyll smell blood). Go here to sign up to receive weekly tips, tools and strategies for how to create success in both life and career on your terms (from the inside-out). Thanks Karen Piete. I have to thank you for putting words to my feelings. Im signed up for The Best Yes online Bible study and I would love to win a copy of the book! Already in Chapter 5 and hoping to finish a first read before the study begins so that I can go deeper during the study. Cross your arms. . I am super excited to start this study. Ive just signed up for the free online Best Yes Bible Study. 5 Ways to Say No to Alcohol When You Dont Want to Drink. Thank you for giving me this opportunity! Im signed up for this bible study. In this guide, lets learn to say no together! We use cookies to ensure you receive the best experience on our site. Signed up for the on-line Bible study. (paraphrased of course). I just signed up for your online bible study. You can keep asking, but the answer wont change. Im so excited to start this new Bible study, especially after having this coming weekend to go to The Cove and rejuvenate. Thank you Lord for Lysas obedience to you. I often feel I am fighting against so much opposition I am exhausted. I signed up for the online study!! I signed up as soon as registration opened! I got to see you speak at a Women of Faith conference and it was such a great experience! But you dont have to be the CEO of Apple to harness the power of no. I am signed up and ready for September 22nd!! Signed-up, love my OBS group and I have almost completed reading The Best Yesfor the second time!!! It is important to remember, however, that it is difficult to perform well if you take on too much. Been telling all my girlfriends about the boom too . I pour into everyone and there is no one to pour into me. I am excited to start. Maybe next time. 6. Thanks. Heard so much about this study and I am so excited to begin. I would live to read all your books in Herman, because my english is not so good. Hey Lysa. I cant wait, Ms. Lysa! I struggle with people pleasing every day of my life. Yes!! Once your laters are used up, saying later again can just cause you to seem untrustworthy in the long run. Thanks for the opportunity. I am so excited about this study. So excited about the study. I would love to do this with the help pf your book! Winning a copy would allow me to bless a dear friend with her own. not a tool for us to use, but we are ordering the DVD and study guides. Thank you for giving us the confidence to gently and graciously say, no. My friends and I have been talking about this study and I look forward to learning more! Thanks! I know God has lead me here for reasons I cannot fully comprehend and look forward to growing in his word. Get clear around who you are and your true priorities. I am a Foster/Adopt parent and need all the help God gives me to help me apply his word in every day/part of our lives. Already signed up and excited to start the bible study! I have a group of 5 friends that are studying together! One of the Pastors wives at my church just introduced me to Pastor Steven Furtick online and Ive fallen in love with his sermons as well, thanks for being so committed to Gods calling in your life and reaching so many!! Im all signed up and stoked to get this book and start going through it! Would love to receive a copy of your book to share! The world values people who take control, speak their minds, and are vocal about their needs and desires. I am really am excited to learn from it! And please understand Im not advocating that we should always say no. WOW. Cant wait to read the book and get started in the bible study ! basic things, The web site style is perfect, the articles is really I am learning to say no, but it kills me inside. But still looking forward to this. . It spoke to me in a way, no one else has been able to do, so I struggle with saying no to where those closest to me deal with the stress and underwhelmed relationships because I know they love me unconditionally. Would be blessed to win a copy of the book. Its a great time for me to refocus my priorities and learn when to say Yes and how to say No graciously! I love those kind no suggestions- I NEED those suggestions. This is when we dream. This is my very first online study, and the first with Lysa! The more certain you are in your refusal, the less people will bug you. I would love to win your book. The book I was reading is probably called unglued? I signed up a few days ago and am looking forward to it. I cant say yes to my churchs bible study right now in this season of my life.but I can say YES to an OBS one!! I just signed up! 15 Ways To Politely Say No (Without Feeling Guilty) - Social Even if it feels like we are letting others down we are called to listen to Gods voice and use his guidance and not let what others think of us hinder our journey. I cant wait for it to start! If I say no to somebody they wont like me anymore. Im just too excited to get this thing going! I have the book, but Id love to win so I can gift one to a friend! Im going to be starting my own study of your book with a few young 20-somethings girls at my church with a hope to be able to go deeper in community with them and encourage one another to give our best yes! Two years of learning how to sit in the quiet with myself and be OK. Two years of believing God for good even when things felt not good at all. I signed up. Hi Lysa! I work for my church and find it hard to engulf myself in worship each week because Im thinking about what can be improved in worship or trying to solve anything that might go wrong, being asked questions all the time, etc. This means that whatever you choose to take on limits your ability to do other things. Confidence makes a big difference when saying no and is an excellent skill to learn. Cant wait! This isnt about justifying your answer, but about being kind and compassionate in how you say it. Cant wait to begin this study!! Brenda. Thank you! Cant wait! it just means Im not going to do it right now. And theyll guide you to setting healthy boundaries. Even if you can fit a new commitment into your schedule, if its not more important than what you would have to give up to do it (including time for relaxation and self-care), you really dont have the time in your schedule. It would be great to win your book. Have confidence that youre saying no to a request, not a person; that by turning down a demand or invitation, youre saving your energy and can give it more authentically at a later point. I am signed up for your online Bible study. I want them to break free from the people-pleasing tendency that Im sure they learned from me. So looking forward to this wonderful study! Thanks, looking forward to beginning. ", "I'd love to help, but I can't right now. I went to Women of Faith and truly enjoyed your testimonies. I would love a copy to give to one of my friend! I am very excited about this Bible Study!! Signed up for this bible study,hoping to gain some new insight and help, I am a new mother and trying to juggle work and spend time with my son and family. This year I am vowing to say no more and to really focus on the task that God wants me to do. Thanks. Thanks for following Gods guidance and bringing us these books. 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